Why do you want to get married at this stage in your life?

What are your top 3 non-negotiable expectations from a healthy Islamic marriage?

Have you been married before? How many times and what lessons did you learn?

What does your current life routine look like on weekdays versus weekends?

Tell me about your education, qualifications, and future study ambitions.

Do you have any habits or personality quirks that someone living with you should know about?

Would you describe yourself as an introvert, extrovert, or an ambivert?

What are 3 practical things that make life deeply meaningful to you?

Have you learnt any lessons from your past experiences or prior relationships?

What is your view on 'keeping eyes wide open before marriage, and half-shut after'?

Describe your top three perceived gender differences between men and women in marriage.

What does a successful day look like for you?

What are your core pet peeves or triggers in domestic living?

How do you usually spend your leisure time when you are alone?

What does marriage mean to you spiritually, socially, and emotionally?

Do you have a clear vision of what you want our marriage to look like in 5 to 10 years?

What are your top emotional needs in a relationship?

What can you offer your spouse spiritually, emotionally, and materially?

What do you expect from your spouse spiritually, emotionally, and materially?

How do you believe the relationship between a husband and wife should be structured?

Do you believe that technology, phones, or social media enhance or disrupt relationships?

Do you think it's important to go to bed or sleep with your spouse at the same time?

What 3 qualities would you like to see in your partner above all else?

What 3 traits would you hate to see in your partner?

Could you manage in a relationship that increased your personal power, wealth, or status even if it lacked emotional connection?

When you win an argument, do you think 'I have won' or 'we have lost'?

Is no one close to you allowed to stay in a manner that hurts?

Would you like your spouse to share your perspectives and worldviews, or do you enjoy differences?

What do you perceive as your worst imaginable marriage partner?

How important is intellectual and conversational compatibility to you?

If trust is broken between us, what concrete steps would be needed to repair it?

It has been said: 'A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.' What does this mean to you?

Do you think that some things should be left unsaid, or is honesty always the absolute best policy?

What foundations do you think relationships should be built upon?

What do you think is the best preparation for a long-term committed relationship?

Do you know how to give continuous comfort and emotional validation?

What do you think your greatest strength would be as a spouse?

Describe two things you think you have in common and two main differences with your partner.

How do you demonstrate or express love? (Words of affirmation, acts of service, gifts, quality time, touch)

What is the greatest fear that you have for your spouse?

What things increase your feelings of love and admiration?

Do you make assumptions about gender roles? What role should your spouse have in the relationship?

What is one word that would describe this relationship?

When a man opens the car door for his wife, is it old-fashioned, or how would you rate manners in a relationship?

What means considerable more to you than a significant other?

To what extent do you think personal freedom and autonomy is necessary in a partnership?

Do you think falling in love is a big part of a relationship?

If one of us is in the public eye, how can we preserve our relationship privacy?

Do you believe that there is a fine line between engaging in separate activities that either enrich or strain relationships?

What counts as real love, and how can love deal with incompatibility?

Is there a project that you would like to collaborate on with your spouse?

In what ways do you think mutual encouragement can be facilitated to promote growth for your spouse?

In what ways would you like your spouse to provide assistance to you?

Laughter is the shortest distance between two people. What place does humor have in marriage?

How do you think power in a marriage should be distributed?

Are you social or do you prefer solitude and quiet evenings?

How were you raised or disciplined? Do you like the way you were raised?

Do you have insecurities about anything?

What is your idea of an ideal wedding celebration?

They say that being heard is so close to being loved. Are you an active listener?

Do you have a charitable or volunteer activity you regularly take part in?

Can you make an anagram of your name?

Tell me about a recent stumbling block you experienced and overcame.

Tell me about a disappointing experience you experienced and how you reacted.

When is it best to give you space?

What do you believe are the 3 most important influences that make up who you are?

On a scale of 1 to 10, how tidy and organized would you say you are?

Are you someone who is punctual and upholds appointments?

Do you say yes or no more often?

Are you a self-reliant person or an interdependent type?

Are you good at communicating your daily schedule and appointments to others?

Were conflicts dealt with in a positive manner when you were growing up?

What things contribute to your personal happiness?

It is said: 'Examples are not the main thing in influencing others; it is the only thing.' Do you lead by example?

What was your first impression when we met?

Are you proactive or sharing?

Considering that an indicator of future behavior is reflection on past behavior, do you reflect and examine yourself?

If you lived alone in the world, what would you do?

What habit would you like to modify or eliminate in your life?

Do you have a recurring dream or nightmare?

When and why have you suddenly felt older?

Is there a topic you tend to overthink?

Do you tend to be thoughtless or forgetful in a particular area?

How do you think you can make ordinary conversations extraordinary?

Do you give clean requests or hint passively?

Do you like to discuss multiple topics or one topic at a time?

Do you take advice easily or resist it?

What things cause you anxiety or worry?

Tell me of a situation where you showed courage.

Do you prefer to be nurtured or admired?

How do you like to be cared for when you are sick?

'I like not only to be loved, but to be told that I am loved.' How often do you like feelings reaffirmed?

What are three moments in your childhood that stand out to you?

Are you an early bird or a night owl?

Do you practice self-reflection? If so, how?

Tell me what makes you feel appreciated.

Are you one for pet names?

Positivity and negativity: which are you prone to give, and which one do you receive?

How do you like to be approached when you are out of sorts?

Would you prefer to walk through past memories or repress them?

'I have an habitual feeling of my real life having passed.' Do you think you are truly living the life you want?

What gives you hope?

How did you spend your time during lockdown or major trials?

Have you ever been betrayed? How has this impacted you?

What are your top three values or priorities in life?

Do you know the difference between empathy and sympathy?

Are you more of an empathiser or a sympathiser?

Have you ever done an online five love languages quiz? If so, what is your preferred love language?

Have you ever done a personality test? If so, which one? What did you learn about yourself from it?

How did your parents discuss or resolve issues: calmly, silently, or by shutting down?

Do you have any current arrangements or communications with an ex-spouse?

What is your definition of infidelity, cheating, and betrayal?

Does religion play a major role in your life? Do you practice its fundamental teachings?

Can you read the Quran in Arabic?

How often and how much of the Quran do you read?

How many chapters from the Quran have you memorised?

Do you read your morning and evening supplications (Adhkar) every day?

Do you pray the Sunnah prayers associated with the compulsory prayers?

Do you make sure you pray Witr every night?

Do you wake up regularly for Fajr prayer on time?

Which days, apart from Ramadan, throughout the year do you fast consistently?

Do you know when you need to give Zakat and on what things Zakat is payable?

Have you been to Umrah or Hajj?

Do you pray Istikhara regularly to make big or small decisions?

How often do you give Sadaqah (charity)?

Have you ever contributed to a charity cause that will benefit your hereafter, such as a water well or a masjid?

Have you sponsored an orphan or do you plan on sponsoring one?

Do you frequent any Islamic organizations or mosques? If so, which ones?

Have you memorized any hadith from the Prophet, peace be upon him?

Do you adopt the ideas of any particular group? If so, why and since when?

What is your relationship with your Muslim brothers / sisters in your area?

Which Muslim scholars or celebrities do you follow on social media?

Have you ever volunteered for any Islamic, religious, or social activities?

Is there anything in the religion that you feel does not make sense? If so, please give your reasons why.

What is your stance on meat slaughtered by the People of the Book in this country? Do you consider it halal?

Do you eat food that contains gelatine without halal endorsement?

What would you sacrifice to achieve your goals? Would you bear in mind any Islamic principles or repercussions?

How does Islam infuse your daily life?

Allah encourages us to reflect upon creation. How is your relationship with nature?

Describe to me an ideal night in.

What is the meaning of family to you?

How is your relationship with your parents?

How is your relationship with each of your family members?

What do you like to do with your family, and how often?

What do you expect your relationship with the family of your spouse to be?

What do you expect your spouse's relationship with your family to be?

How would you best describe the character and personality type of your parents?

Has any parent cheated on the other?

Which parent do you resemble most in character?

What do you think if my mother or your mother interfered in our personal lives?

If your parents, siblings, or relatives caused any injustice towards me, are you okay for me to never speak to them again, or will you challenge my stance?

Is there anyone in your family living with you now?

Are you planning to have anyone in your family live with you in the future?

Do you mind having guests in our home on a regular basis?

What is your opinion of speaking other languages in the home that I do not understand, such as with your family or friends?

What do you believe makes a house a home?

Are you expecting to have a pet at home? If so, which one?

Describe to me your dream home.

In an ideal world, where would you like to live?

Do you have a recipe for fostering a successful relationship with your family or in-laws?

Do you expect me to show up all the time to weekly family gatherings?

Are you okay going to your family gatherings without me?

What qualities do you look for in a friend?

Who are your friends and how did you come to know them? Identify at least 3.

What do you like most about them?

Do you have friends of the opposite sex? What is the level of your relationship with them now?

What will the level of your relationship with them be after marriage?

What type of relationship do you want your spouse to have with your friends?

What sort of relationship would you expect your spouse to have with his or her friends?

How do you make important and less important decisions in your life?

'Only choose as a mate someone who you would also choose as a friend.' Does this statement resonate with you?

Is it okay to have separate friends that you associate with regularly?

Do you think it is important for your spouse to approve of your social circle?

Do you prefer making new friends or established ones?

Do you want to have children? If not, how come?

Do you think it is necessary to have a child in the first year of marriage?

If yes, ideally, how many children would you like to have?

Does it matter whether they are girls or boys?

Are you willing to change diapers if you have children?

Will you be open to the idea of being in the delivery room when any child comes into this world?

What are your top five principles of parenting?

Do you support the idea of utilizing babysitters or maids?

To the best of your understanding, are you able to have children?

Do you want to have children in the first two years of marriage? If not, when?

Do you believe in abortion?

Do you have children now? If so, what is your relationship with them now and their other parent?

What kind of relationship would you expect your spouse to have with your children and their parents?

How would you like to raise your children: morals, extra-curricular activities, education, friends, and so on?

What is the best method of disciplining children? Do you believe in spanking children, and under what circumstances?

What type of relationship do you want your children to have with all their grandparents?

What type of relationship should your children have with non-Muslim classmates or friends?

How do you think children should be educated?

Do you believe in public, private, or private Islamic school for your children?

Do you believe in homeschooling for your children?

Describe to me an ideal night out.

Tell me some of your passions and interests that you have had since you were a child.

How do you spend your free time, and what are your hobbies?

In what ways do you like to relax?

Are you more of an outdoor or indoor person?

How do you think your spouse should spend his or her vacations or free time?

Describe to me how you would spend a perfect day.

Do you prefer routine or spontaneity?

Have you been haunted by 'if only' questions about your life journey?

Do you like to read? If so, what sort of books?

Where is your ideal travel destination and with whom?

Where would you like to travel together?

Are you more spontaneous or planned when it comes to having fun?

When you are leaving for a trip, do you start early or when you are ready?

How do you prevent boredom in your life?

Describe to me an environment that will allow your talents and ambitions to come to fruition.

Do you consider yourself competitive, and in what areas?

In what area are you most creative?

Do you have a hobby or interest that may have a negative effect on the relationship?

Are there any secular excesses that bore you?

Do you love your job, do your job pragmatically, loathe your job, or do your best to ignore it?

Does a career take precedence over a relationship?

Should changes that will impact life be opportunities to be embraced, or is it better to maintain the status quo?

What are some pros and cons of working together in any respect?

Are you okay with your partner working with the opposite gender, and if yes, to what extent?

What are your thoughts of the future?

How much time have you spent in the past preparing for the future?

If you could devote all your life to a cause, what would it be?

To what do you aspire?

What is your future ambition and what is your goal in life?

How do you see yourself living your life as a retiree?

Do you think it is important for spouses to share mutual goals and priorities?

To what degree is physical appearance important to you?

Do you suffer from any chronic disease or condition?

Do you have any health-related problems or actions you cannot do due to a health condition?

Are you willing to take a physical exam by a physician before marriage?

What is your understanding of proper health and nutrition?

How do you support your own health and nutrition?

If I suffer from a disease or currently am, how will you react to it?

If I were infertile, what would you do?

If any of the children are born disabled, how would you react to that?

Describe to me your relationship with food.

Are you all in when it comes to vaccinations for yourself and for your future children?

Which type of health-related therapies do you lean towards most: conventional doctors or naturopaths?

What type of diets have you tried, and which one worked best for you?

Are you currently on any medication? If so, which ones?

Do you take supplements such as vitamins and minerals? If so, which ones?

Have you been traumatized by any life events? Tell me more.

Have you seen or in therapy regarding your trauma?

Did you ever see a therapist or counselor regarding past trauma?

Have you ever been afflicted by jinn or the evil eye?

What is your emotional home? In other words, when you are down, what do you do to forget?

Do you have obsessive-compulsion disorder? If so, please tell me more.

Do you work? If so, where?

How do you think that your use of money will change after marriage?

Do you have any debts now? If so, how are you making progress to eliminate them?

Do you use credit cards?

How often do you splurge and on what?

Do you support the idea of taking non-Islamic bank loans to buy a new home?

What are you expecting from your spouse financially?

Do you support the idea of a working wife?

If so, how do you think a dual-income family should manage funds?

Are you investing in anything at the moment?

Is there a form of wastefulness that you particularly dislike?

What are your long-term financial goals and how do you plan to achieve them?

Are you naturally a spender or saver?

Do you budget your finances? How do you think financial harmony will be achieved?

To what degree is your happiness determined by worldly possessions?

Is your financial fantasy meeting your financial reality?

What is the most you are willing to spend on a car, shoes, or couch?

Does non-verbal communication play an important part in understanding someone?

Do you use foul language at home, in public, with family, or with friends?

Do your friends or family use foul language?

How do you expect your spouse to express anger?

When there is a dispute in marriage, religious or otherwise, how should the conflict get resolved? When should mediation be initiated?

Can you let bygones be bygones?

What things make you angry?

What offence, action, or statement would you find hard to forgive?

How do you manage anger?

Do you hear people out before interjecting?

Is it better to calm differences or to discuss them?

Can you peacefully agree to disagree on some issues rather than having either one of us sacrifice on core beliefs and values?

Do you think it is something positive to have differing views on hot-topic areas such as politics?

When something is wrong, do you pick up or mirror a magnifying glass?

Do you process your issues internally or out loud?

Are problems categorised as mine, yours, or ours?

Do you have any prejudices? What assumptions do you tend to make?

Is there a subject or area that you will fully avoid for the sake of keeping the peace?

Do you admit your mistakes?

Walk me through the way you handle a conflict or a crisis.

What would you do if you felt that you had been abused?

What would you do for assistance if you were being abused?

If someone has wronged you, what should be done? How do you warn him or her to apologize to you?

Is there a dignified way to end a relationship?

Do you find it harder to forgive or forget?

'A good marriage is the union of two good forgivers.' Are you able to easily forgive?

Do you collect conflict and injustices?

Are you able to separate the issue at hand from the person?

What would you think an endearing fault is?